The reality is that we live in a culture where serial relationships are considered normal. Broken hearts are just considered to be part of the spouse-finding process. Too often though, people truly give their hearts away and then things go badly and relationships end. But emotional and spiritual attachments remain, and sometimes interfere seriously with potential future relationships.
This is not God’s best plan for us. He designed us to have healthy soul connections. But a lot of times our focus leaves God, and then we no longer are in submission to His will for us. This is when ungodly soul ties happen.
Chester and Betty Kylstra, authors of Biblical Healing and Deliverance, define an ungodly soul ties as “ungodly covenant with another person (organization or thing) based on an unhealthy emotional and/or sexual relationship.” We can, in effect, make idols of relationships, people, animals, organizations or things. These ungodly connections take our focus off of God. As we continue to focus on these people and things, invisible spiritual cords develop and eventually bind us to them. Even when these connections are broken in the natural, they remain in the spiritual realm and effect us. We need to recognize these in our lives and repent of putting them ahead of God. Then we need to pray and break them through the authority that God gives us to do so.
How do we know that we have ungodly soul ties? They develop in several situations. Sexual sin is a common cause. Spiritually healthy soul ties are the result of marital emotional and physical intimacy. “Two become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24) in marriage. Sometimes unhealthy ties occur through intense platonic relationships, or if a love is unrequited (not returned). Ungodly soul ties also can form as a result of abusive relationships, where trust is betrayed and much confusion causes fear and anxiety toward another person or people. Sometimes this happens in controlling relationships. Obsessive relationships, requited or not, can also result in ungodly soul ties.
Sometimes our devotion to organizations (through vows and ceremonies) can become ungodly soul ties. I recently saw a video where a young girl documented her obsession with a cultic movie series. This can happen with real or imagined people. Authority figures can have an inordinate amount of influence on us. Pets can literally become the primary object of people’s affections. Whenever something’s influence on us seems out of our control and we can't stop this control, then beware of an ungodly soul tie.
Once we become aware that such ungodly soul ties can and do exist, God, through His abundant grace, has provided a way to break these ties. Through praying the prayer below, you can repent of any ungodly soul tie and break it, in Jesus’ name. Some of us will have many ties to break. The prayer can be prayed over and over again as God reveals more to us. Freedom is ours. We must be determined and disciplined about giving our thoughts and actions over to the Holy Spirit as He cleanses us and we begin to live without these invisible ties binding our lives.
Today is the day that God has ordained for you to be free of the cords that have bound you to painful relationships. God bless you as you pray the prayers below!
Signs That You May Have an Ungodly Soul Tie
- You feel like you heart is broken and won’t heal; it's hard to forget a person and it affects your current relationships
- You're influenced or tormented by the voice of someone from the past
- An inability to trust and/or give yourself emotionally to another
- Excessive thought time devoted to memories of another
- Issues with controlling or being controlled by others
Prayer to Break Soul Ties
Father, in the Name of Jesus, I submit myself completely to You. I confess all of my emotional and sexual sins, as well as my ungodly soul ties. I choose to forgive each person with whom I have had an ungodly soul tie (be specific).
I ask You, Lord, to forgive me for my sin that resulted in ungodly soul ties. Lord, I receive Your forgiveness. Thank You for forgiving me and for cleansing me. I choose to forgive myself for this involvement. I will no longer be angry at myself, hate myself or punish myself.
Repeat the following paragraph for each soul tie.
Lord, I break my ungodly soul ties with (name). I release myself from him/her and I release him/her from me. As I do this, Lord, I pray that you would cause him/her to be all that You want him/her to be and that You would cause me to be all that You want me to be.
Lord, please cleanse my mind from all memories of ungodly unions so I am totally free to give myself to You and to my spouse. I renounce and cancel the assignments of all evil spirits attempting to maintain these ungodly soul ties.
Lord, thank You for restoring my soul to wholeness. I choose to walk in holiness by Your grace. In the Name of Jesus Christ, I pray. Amen!
*Taken from Biblical Healing and Deliverance by Chester & Betsy Kylstra